It’s true that getting anal with a dildo can seem intimidating, especially when you’ve never done it before! Believe me – I know just how overwhelming it can be, having taken the plunge myself a few times. But if you follow a few simple steps, you may just find that it’s easier than you think.
First off, preparation is key! You’ll want to make sure you’re relaxed both mentally and physically. Take your time, and don’t rush it. Get yourself some lube (the thicker, the better) and lay out some towels. Taking a warm shower prior can also help you loosen up.
It’s also important to check out your toy beforehand. Make sure it’s clean, and that it isn’t cracked or fraying in any way. If you’re a beginner, you’ll want to start off with something gentle – a thumb-sized dildo or butt plug is usually a good bet for starters. As you become more adept, you’ll be able to go bigger.
Now comes the fun part! Once you’re behind closed doors, you can let your inhibitions go. Spend some time on your own exploring your body – experiment with light tugging, stroking, or even some gentle rubbing. This kind of play can help you become aware of what relatively big objects feel like. When you’re ready, you can start using the lube, adding a few drops onto your toy and around your anus.
It might take a few moments, and feel odd at first – but be gentle, and slow. You can also use breathing techniques to help you stay relaxed, and use your fingers to explore your anus, massaging lightly and using the lube as you go. Once you’re comfortable, it’s time to pop in the toy.
You can do this either a few inches at a time, or all at once. If you’re encountering any resistance, use more lube (or a thicker variety), and back off until your body is more relaxed. The trick is to just relax, and to keep breathing – keep in mind that it gets easier over time.
So you’re done, and you’re feeling either satisfied, or like you didn’t get enough. If you didn’t, there’s nothing wrong with getting your hands dirty again and trying again – I find that when done properly, it can even be quite pleasurable.
Anything beyond that is all up to you – your own imagination is the limit! There’s no need to rush – I was comfortable enough to start experimenting with vibrating dildos after only a few sessions, but that’s not to say that your experience will be the same. You can explore different types of sex toys with varying sizes and widths, or even explore your fantasies with role-play.
When it comes to sex, ”no” always means ”no”, and safety and comfort always come first. If you’re ever feeling uncomfortable, don’t be afraid to convey your feelings – remember, communication can always contribute to a positive experience!
Now that you’ve got the basics of anal down, why not spice it up by getting kinky? Invest in some sex toys that work with your dildo for different sensations – such as anal beads, butt plugs, or even strap-ons if you’re feeling adventurous! What about exploring cream pies and kissing during anal? Or even some bondage play if you want to really get wild.
No matter what your experience level is, there are always different opportunities when it comes to anal. There’s no rule book to how and what to do – just relax, experiment, and don’t be afraid to take the plunge!